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Question of the Day - Insecurities?

Posted on September 12th, 2006 by kencauley.
Categories: Question of the Day.

This post will be a bit of a ramble and even a gamble. The ramble being that I don’t know quite how to describe or correctly word the question that is on my mind. The gamble being that I might come across as ignorant or even a jerk (to any females reading this). So just roll with it and if you don’t agree or don’t relate, just leave a nasty comment.

Basically, and putting this nicely, why do girl make things so difficult? Specifically, when it comes time to following their head or their heart. Believe me when I say I’m not generalized ALL women with this comment, but come on…

It seems that MOST women, particularly young adults (early twenties or so), have a hard time determining what it is they want and how to go about making decisions to get it. It goes way beyond being indecisive. It’s as if their emotions cloud the part of their brain that makes common sense decisions. Pressed against a decision with emotional impact and the decision could go unanswered for weeks or months; who knows how long.

I realize I haven’t established anything yet besides an uneducated ‘ramble’ (hey I warned you). One thought I have in regards to this has to do with insecurities. Even a girl who is offered a promising opportunity, specifically in regards to dating, guard themselves not allowing a decision process to take place. They would often rather keep themselves in a bad situation or a ‘no situation’ than make a change to a potentially (and I emphasize potentially) good situation. As if a bad decision they could make when their 20, 21, 22, 23, 24… Could destroy their lives for years to come. If I’m not mistaken, life is about learning and the only way to learn is to live. Maybe they’re so insecure with themselves so they would rather stay in what is known or expected or even safe, than journey out and take a risk.

Some girls will use the excuse that past relationships have been so ‘abusive’ that they’re scared to trust. That they’re unable to distinguish what their heads tell them from what their hearts tell them. I personally don’t really buy into it when MOST girls say this. Of course there are always the exceptions, those who have experienced true emotional or even physical drama beyond the realm of ‘live and learn.’ Of course I suppose that concept is also subject to individual opinion.

Maybe most girls just like the idea of knowing they have options, or if you will, the received attention. Why leave a nothing situation for a risk when you know the risk is going to be there regardless.

Perhaps the true ignorant one is the person (usually the guy, lol) who can not take a hint or use his own common sense to stop pursuing something that isn’t even there. To stop pursuing something that he shouldn’t be pursuing to begin with.

Let me know if I’m being extremely one sided or if you straight up agree or disagree. Leave your comments. I didn’t go too in-depth for the sake of the ‘ramble and gamble’ I mentioned above. Also for fact that nobody wants to read a 2,000 word blog post. Oh and this may or may not be related to myself specifically, but just a question I’ve been pondering recently — just a question of the day.

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